How Do You Say It, When You're Not Supposed To Talk About It?
There has been much debate lately about the amount of personal information a blogger shares. I personally hide certain aspects of my life because my family asked me to. I do not share marital disputes, family disputes (at least the serious ones), or personal information about my daughter, my sister and my nephew. Sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly within those limits can be difficult at times.
Writing is my personal refuge. It gives me a way to express my personal opinions, views and beliefs. It allows me to express feelings that I have trouble expressing vocally so that my family can try to understand the dark places I sometimes travel through in my mind.
Sometimes an event happens in my world and I want so badly to share it with my “internets”, but I know that my “real life” would be terribly angry with me for posting it. There’s a very thin line that a blogger has to walk; but it’s something I’m willing to do for the relief I gain.
This is type of stuff I need to write about.
Recently one of my family members became involved in a very confusing love triangle. She has been with her partner for quite some time but was faced with a previous love interest walking back into her world. She is now dealing with a very difficult aspect of love, choosing the right partner.
I can tell her what I think all day long but does it really sink in? When do I have to back off and say “I’ve given you advice, now make up your own mind.”? When I say that to her am I allowed to go back and offer more advice or am I supposed to stay away?
I want so badly to tell both of the girls on this side of the triangle –
“You’re going to be OK when this is over.
The outcome will mean the world to you right now, but not so much in 20 years. You’re still so young that this will be a minuscule moment in your own personal time line.
Sometimes staying with someone hurts more than living without them.
Being in love sometimes means having to back off and let the other person figure their own feelings out.
Just because you are one person’s everything doesn’t mean that you are nothing to someone else.
Being someone’s entire world sometimes hurts worse than if they’d just ignore you.
Love and confusion often go hand in hand.
Make yourself happy, screw everyone else.
Misery loves company, make it feel uninvited.
DON’T SETTLE FOR ANY NOUNS! (person, place, or thing)
Life is too short to be stressing about this kind of stuff.”
That’s what I’d tell them if I was ever able to blog about it.
3 People Put Their Two Cents In:
Yeah, I got yelled at by my XHB about a six-month old post I wrote about his new girlfriend, because I used her name. So I edited it but I didn't take it down, which is what he wanted.
It's a fine line to straddle.
Indeed, it is a hard line to draw. I mostly just hint and use initials when I have to talk about something that is personal.
Isn't it awful when you tell them something, and you know they're not listening? It doesn't matter how many ways you explain it, you're just yelling from the sidewalk as the two cars slide across the ice towards each other.
Sometimes you just have to stand there and watch the crash.
Then help pick up the pieces.
It is difficult. I refuse to censor myself but I also don't really go into too much detail about the dayjob, certain family members and use initials in place of names of certain individuals.
Also, when it comes to picking up the pieces, you just can only be there for them when they shatter - and have lots of wine on hand (or coffee)
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